Guys usually stick to the “safe topics” when they meet a woman for the first time. Questions usually revolve around the standard questions about her job, hobbies she enjoys, where she is originally from or where she lives. Yes, these questions can stir up a few “responses” from her but they definitely are not the best way to initiate an interesting conversation that will begin to build attraction.
Consider your goal. Are you trying to get her phone number, or a job? I ask only because “safe topics” are great choices if you are in a job interview but not if you are trying to create chemistry and pick her up.
Simply put, safe topics tend to bore women to the point of tears. She may answer your questions, but she is more likely than not also hoping for a “polite” way to end the conversation. Women are attracted to men who are interesting, funny and confident, and safe topics do not display any of these characteristics.
Most guys who stick to safe topics when talking they first meet a woman usually do so because they feel sexually-related topics are taboo and should be avoided. Rightfully so, they are concerned about looking sleazy or offending her and choose to stick to the topics guaranteed not to insult her.
Yes, by sticking to the safe questions you will be successful in not offending her. But, you will also bore her and not help you seduce her.
To create chemistry and seduce women, you must introduce “chemistry creating” topics into the conversation. A great way to do this without offending her is by using sexual innuendos. Sexual innuendos are a necessity during every conversation you have with a woman you are trying to attract.
Let me tell you a secret: women think about sex just as much as men, and maybe more! With this in mind, you will find that it is much easier to create chemistry between both of you when you flirt a little and bring sex into the conversation.
Now, taking this too far can backfire which is another great reason why sexual innuendos are a subtle yet effective technique. A great way to start is by telling a humorous, sexually-related story about a friend or “someone you know.” Then, ask her if she has ever heard something like that or if she has any similar stories about her friends.
The point is to be sure it is a good combination of funny, interesting and sexually-related enough to stimulate her subconsciously to begin creating a sexual chemistry. Sexual innuendos are effective because sex is introduced and discussed in a non-threatening manner. You can create the necessary sexual tension in a more attractive way. Remember, the last thing you want is to look like a pervert just looking to get laid!
So, the next time you are trying to talk to an attractive woman, go ahead and try this technique. Tell some funny, sexually-related stories and slip in a few sexual innuendos. You will be pleasantly surprised, trust me!
If you have a fear of rejection when it comes to meeting women, you are not alone. Many guys have admitted to this same problem with women and find themselves as frustrated as you may be. And, I understand your frustration since this fear of being rejected by women is the very thing keeping you from attracting them.
There is good news, though. I learned a technique from a friend that can help you overcome this fear. It is time to say goodbye to your fear of rejection once and hello to meeting some great women. Unfortunately, there is not magic pill to eliminate this fear but there is what my friend calls “Going Kamikaze.”
Let me explain how this technique works and why it works for him…
My friend has succeeded with women because he goes into it not worrying about rejection. Now, he is aware of the chance or rejection but he simply disregards it and has learned to let go of the corresponding negative thoughts. He just focuses on enjoying the conversation with a nice woman and uses it as an opportunity to get to know her a little better.
Why it works is that he doesn’t subconsciously put pressure on himself in relation to the outcome of the conversation. Yes, he hopes to get her phone number or secure a date but he chooses to focus on the present moment and just enjoy the conversation.
If anything, you can learn from my friend and his “technique” that men who forget about rejection and let go of their fear of it tend to be the most successful when it comes to meeting and attracting women. Dwelling on the outcome of the conversation allows your fear of rejection to win. The anxiety increases while your “game” decreases. She will see right through you if you go into the conversation worrying about being rejected, and the only thing she will see is your lack of confidence.
Recently I found a great trick to eliminating a fear or rejection. All you have to do is focus on the present moment and enjoy your conversation with her. Ignore any negative thoughts or concerns about the outcome.
Now, one thing you cannot do is let your fear of rejection intimidate you. Do not hesitate to go up to a woman and start a conversation. Immediately approach a woman that sparks your interest. Logically, you will never be rejected if you never approach a woman but this safe alternative will also prevent you from ever succeeding when it comes to seducing women.
Have confidence in yourself. Go ahead and approach her. The probability of success is much greater than if you stand in the corner waiting on them to come to you. Eventually, approaching women will become more natural and you will probably even forget that you ever struggled with fear of rejection.
The best part of it is that once you let go of this fear and start approaching women automatically, your seduction skills and “game” will naturally improve. You can become great at meeting, attracting and seducing women by applying this one technique. Let go of your fear of rejection and go kamikaze!
Let me make a prediction…
There are moments in your life when you just want to have sex!
While you probably know the importance of a relationship or even might be looking for that special someone, there are times when you only want to get laid.
That’s why it’s important to know how to seduce women.
Without seduction, you have little chance of having sex.
Now many guys understand the importance of seduction, but they don’t know where to start. In fact they’ve probably found that it can be quite difficult to transition from a date to “getting it on” with a woman.
If you’re one of these guys, then I don’t have to tell you that it’s frustrating to like a woman but have no clue about how to seduce her.
But allow me to let you in on a little secret…
Women like sex as much as we do!
While they pretend to be seduced, they actually probably have as much desire for sex as any man. However they’re fairly selective about the manner of their sexual encounters.
For instance, women don’t like to make the first move. Instead they want to be pursued and desired by men. In essence this means you have to have the courage and forwardness to become a seducer of women.
Even if a woman is really into you, sex won’t happen unless you make the first move. That means if she’s into you there’ll be little resistance to your seduction techniques.
Now I know you might be one of those guys who is nervous about making the first move.
If that’s the case, then you can use the following technique for progressing from a date to having sex…
It’s called ‘making a transition’
A transition is any point in any moment when you can increase intimacy with a woman.
An example would be when you’re talking to a woman and start kissing her.
In his landmark ebook, Double Your Dating, David DeAngelo discusses the importance of why transitions can pull you from one step to the next. David has stated that there are key points when you’re with a woman which provides an opportunity to take things to the next level.
The techniques covered in ‘Double Your Dating’ emphasize the importance understanding your transitional point and how to achieve it.
To go from meeting a woman to having sex, you have to plan every single escalation point and what you’ll do to make it happen. By knowing how to navigate through this process, you’ll discover that seduce women is fairly easy!
My advice for planning out your transitions is to write down all the times where you encounter a roadblock or stopping point. In order to progress past this point, you have to identify the specific action you need to take.
So think of this moment and how you’ll handle it!
Some examples could include getting a woman’s number, setting up a date, initiating physical contact, kissing her and then finally seducing her.
As I said before, identify the next step you should take, write it down and figure out how to make that transition. Then put it to memory.
By planning out your transitions, you’ll be able to rapidly seduce her with confidence and ease.
Understanding how to seduce women is a skill which can be learned. If you understand these transition techniques, you’ll be able to seduce women quickly and effortlessly.
Without confidence we are nothing. You need at least a small amount of confidence to achieve even the most easily achievable goal. To walk up to a checkout girl, hand her your purchase, pay for it, say thanks and leave, it takes some confidence-not much, but you still need it. What is confidence?
There’s point getting into a page-long thesis of what human confidence is scientifically-let’s just concentrate on what it means in a social sense, particularly when a man is talking to a woman with the intention of attracting her.
Confidence means having a true belief that you can achieve something, either because of previous experience or the feeling that something is easy and therefore nothing to worry about. For example, you’ve probably never jumped up and down on the spot while blinking rapidly and saying your name over and over, but if you were asked to do it, you’d no doubt be confident of your success. If you were asked to do it in room full of beautiful women, however, it might be a different story. That’s the other kind of confidence, the kind not based on the knowledge that something is technically easy, like the jumping thing. The most vital kind of confidence needed when talking to a woman in the hope of attracting her is the kind built by experience and previous successes. In essence, the more you do something and the most successful you become at doing that thing, the more confident you generally become at doing it. Success produces confidence and confidence produces more success. It’s a very neat and productive loop if you can get it started.
What you need to do to become truly confident (self-assured, unstressed, anxiety-free, capable of being the best version of yourself and able to be as sociable and charming as possible) is use the concept of habituation. Habituation means doing something lots of times and, as a result, becoming desensitised to the stimuli that used to make you unconfident or nervous. For example, for an instant grand in your bank account, you’d probably do the jumping thing in front of women. (If the jumping thing wouldn’t scare you, then pick an example of something to do with women that would make you feel unconfident.) The first time you did it, you’d do it badly. You’d look and feel self-conscious, the volume of your voice would be low, as would be your jumps. The money keeps pouring in and you keep jumping. By the third day, your legs would be tired but your confidence would be UP. That’s because of habituation. You’d become acclimatized to the stimuli (the presence of the women and the thoughts they had about you as you looked like a madman) that used to worry you.
To become confident when approaching women, starting conversations with them and attracting them through that conversation, you need to use habituation.
First approach and talk to old women you are not attracted to. It’s pretty easy because you don’t much care what they think of you.
Next talk to random guys, starting with old guys then moving to young guys who are the same age as you. It’ll feel a bit strange and possibly a tad gay, but just do it.
Now talk to women who are closer to your ‘target market’. This will feel like a significant jump from the last task, but go for it. You’ll feel like crap if your first approaches go badly, but you should take comfort in knowing that you are fast becoming used to the process of conversing with attractive women you don’t know.
Make it happen-use habituation to build your confidence when talking to women. It’s only with confidence that you can become relaxed enough to do the things you know are necessary to create the spark of sexual attraction, like making women laugh, teasing them and generally being charismatic.
The process of seducing a woman can be challenging for many men.
While it’s fairly easy to engage a woman in a conversation, it’s really difficult to seduce her and make your interaction more intimate. In essence, in order to have sex you MUST know how the process of seduction actually works.
So if you’re having trouble with trouble “closing the deal” with women, I urge you to follow this 6 step seduction blueprint. It’ll take from meeting a woman all the way to having sex.
But I warn you, the system I’m about to describe requires a bit of effort and practice on your part. So if you’re a lazy guy, then it probably won’t work for you.
On the other hand, if you’re tired of failing with women, then pay close attention to these steps:
Step 1- Act like a sexual partner
It’s simple:
In order to seduce a woman, you have to act like a confident and sexual man from the moment you meet her. This means you’re not afraid to take risks and challenge a woman.
Basically you don’t act like one of girl friends. Instead of being nice and wussy, your behavior will be a projection of sexuality.
Step 2- Build attraction
In order to seduce a woman, you must work on build attraction from the moment you open your mouth and initiate conversation. If you can’t build attraction with a woman, the rest of these seduction tips will not help you.
Always remind yourself- seduction starts with attraction.
So when you’re talking to a woman, build attraction by flirting heavily, teasing her and introducing sex innuendos into your conversation.
The more relaxed she is in your presence, the easier it’ll be to seduce her.
Step3- Initiate kino and physical contact
To seal the deal with a woman, she has to comfortable with your presence and touch. The best way to do this is to begin making her used to your physical contact.
So during your conversation start touching her. You can do this by touching her when you’re making a point, holding her hand or teasing her with physical play.
Seducing a woman isn’t about stripping down and then jumping in the bed together. It’s about building physical attraction and building towards a physically intimate experience.
When you initiate physical, you’re preparing her for the seduction.
Now if a woman shies away from your touch, then you know she’s probably not regarding you as a sexual partner.
Step 4- Go to a private place
This is pretty obvious, but in order to seduce a woman, you move your conversation to a location that allows for intimacy.
But before this can be done, she has to completely trust you!
To accomplish this you have to work your seductive conversation towards her making her comfortable and want to be alone with you. As a result, it’s important to NOT say or do anything off the wall.
The quicker she trusts you, the easier it’ll be to seduce her.
Step 5- Kiss her with passion and fun
Now once you’ve relocated to a private location, it’ll be time to start your seductive routine. Here’s how to get going…
Once you’ve initiate heavy physical contact and you’ve been seriously flirting, you should go for the kiss. What you want to do is start slowly and avoid ramming your tongue down her throat when you’re kissing her.
Simply kiss her slowly and lightly. Then once you see a positive response, start building up the passion of your kissing.
Step 6- Make things more intense and build towards sex
When you’ve built up the passion of your kissing, start teasing her. You can do this by kissing her neck, nibbling on her neck and lightly pulling her hair. As the teasing evolves, you should begin foreplay.
The focus is to turn her on! So be sure to take your time and concentrate on giving her pleasure.
If everything goes right and did these steps correctly, it’ll be simple to transition into having sex. Just remember the importance of taking your time and building things up slowly.
Once you’ve mastered these 6 steps, you can easily seduce women in ANY situation.
