Guys usually stick to the “safe topics” when they meet a woman for the first time. Questions usually revolve around the standard questions about her job, hobbies she enjoys, where she is originally from or where she lives. Yes, these questions can stir up a few “responses” from her but they definitely are not the best way to initiate an interesting conversation that will begin to build attraction.
Consider your goal. Are you trying to get her phone number, or a job? I ask only because “safe topics” are great choices if you are in a job interview but not if you are trying to create chemistry and pick her up.
Simply put, safe topics tend to bore women to the point of tears. She may answer your questions, but she is more likely than not also hoping for a “polite” way to end the conversation. Women are attracted to men who are interesting, funny and confident, and safe topics do not display any of these characteristics.
Most guys who stick to safe topics when talking they first meet a woman usually do so because they feel sexually-related topics are taboo and should be avoided. Rightfully so, they are concerned about looking sleazy or offending her and choose to stick to the topics guaranteed not to insult her.
Yes, by sticking to the safe questions you will be successful in not offending her. But, you will also bore her and not help you seduce her.
To create chemistry and seduce women, you must introduce “chemistry creating” topics into the conversation. A great way to do this without offending her is by using sexual innuendos. Sexual innuendos are a necessity during every conversation you have with a woman you are trying to attract.
Let me tell you a secret: women think about sex just as much as men, and maybe more! With this in mind, you will find that it is much easier to create chemistry between both of you when you flirt a little and bring sex into the conversation.
Now, taking this too far can backfire which is another great reason why sexual innuendos are a subtle yet effective technique. A great way to start is by telling a humorous, sexually-related story about a friend or “someone you know.” Then, ask her if she has ever heard something like that or if she has any similar stories about her friends.
The point is to be sure it is a good combination of funny, interesting and sexually-related enough to stimulate her subconsciously to begin creating a sexual chemistry. Sexual innuendos are effective because sex is introduced and discussed in a non-threatening manner. You can create the necessary sexual tension in a more attractive way. Remember, the last thing you want is to look like a pervert just looking to get laid!
So, the next time you are trying to talk to an attractive woman, go ahead and try this technique. Tell some funny, sexually-related stories and slip in a few sexual innuendos. You will be pleasantly surprised, trust me!
If you have a fear of rejection when it comes to meeting women, you are not alone. Many guys have admitted to this same problem with women and find themselves as frustrated as you may be. And, I understand your frustration since this fear of being rejected by women is the very thing keeping you from attracting them.
There is good news, though. I learned a technique from a friend that can help you overcome this fear. It is time to say goodbye to your fear of rejection once and hello to meeting some great women. Unfortunately, there is not magic pill to eliminate this fear but there is what my friend calls “Going Kamikaze.”
Let me explain how this technique works and why it works for him…
My friend has succeeded with women because he goes into it not worrying about rejection. Now, he is aware of the chance or rejection but he simply disregards it and has learned to let go of the corresponding negative thoughts. He just focuses on enjoying the conversation with a nice woman and uses it as an opportunity to get to know her a little better.
Why it works is that he doesn’t subconsciously put pressure on himself in relation to the outcome of the conversation. Yes, he hopes to get her phone number or secure a date but he chooses to focus on the present moment and just enjoy the conversation.
If anything, you can learn from my friend and his “technique” that men who forget about rejection and let go of their fear of it tend to be the most successful when it comes to meeting and attracting women. Dwelling on the outcome of the conversation allows your fear of rejection to win. The anxiety increases while your “game” decreases. She will see right through you if you go into the conversation worrying about being rejected, and the only thing she will see is your lack of confidence.
Recently I found a great trick to eliminating a fear or rejection. All you have to do is focus on the present moment and enjoy your conversation with her. Ignore any negative thoughts or concerns about the outcome.
Now, one thing you cannot do is let your fear of rejection intimidate you. Do not hesitate to go up to a woman and start a conversation. Immediately approach a woman that sparks your interest. Logically, you will never be rejected if you never approach a woman but this safe alternative will also prevent you from ever succeeding when it comes to seducing women.
Have confidence in yourself. Go ahead and approach her. The probability of success is much greater than if you stand in the corner waiting on them to come to you. Eventually, approaching women will become more natural and you will probably even forget that you ever struggled with fear of rejection.
The best part of it is that once you let go of this fear and start approaching women automatically, your seduction skills and “game” will naturally improve. You can become great at meeting, attracting and seducing women by applying this one technique. Let go of your fear of rejection and go kamikaze!
Attracting Women In Bookstalls and Bookshops
Bookshops are a vast venue to pickup intellectual women as they’re always packed (especially the huge bookstalls) with women who have more going for them apart from their beauty.
Picking up in bookshops has always been my special gift, as the women there tend to be very smart and talkative.
Below you will find some pointers when it comes to picking up women in libraries.
Library Pickup Tip#1
Don’t look like you’re in the bookshop just to pick up. If you look like a man on a mission pacing aimlessly around chatting to random women then eventually other women will start to catch on. Pick up an interesting book with a colorful cover (something that’ll get women’s attention and something you can talk to her about) ideas are travel books to out of the ordinary locations, Moroccan cookery, yoga for dummies, art books and if you’re in a playful disposition you could have a copy of the bible (tell her you’re a freelance playwright and you’ve decided to re-write it).
Bookshop Pickup Tip#2
Don’t linger around her before approaching her as this seriously creeps girls out, women in libraries are easily approachable and talkative (you will see when you try it) so when you spot an attractive woman in a bookshops casually stroll up to her, and start a conversation with her using some of the below conversation starters unique to bookshops:
Starting conversations in bookshops should be done in a casual, friendly tone and always smile guys!
* fantastic book …you should definitely read it would you like to know how it ends??
*Hi there, I just noticed you and I have to say you’re remarkably cute … I would regret it not talking to you, my name is Alex …
Remember to keep smiling (even if you don’t fee like it) and don’t remain to long before approaching as you may talk yourself out of doing it. Now go pick up some hotties in the bookshop!
When you put a man and a woman together, somehow, there is a strong chemistry and sexual attraction between them, unless they are relatives or siblings. There is the thrill to conquer to other person and make him or her like you.
Attracting women has not been easier. You need the other person to trust you completely and earn her respect. In achieving this, you need to spend time together to know one another, and to treat her well so that she will fall in love with you.
Whether we want to admit it or not, human beings are to a large degree victims of our genetic programming. No matter what a woman says or how civilized, cultured or progressive she tries to be, she has very specific evolutionary characteristics that shes attracted to. This is great news for us because all we have to do is embrace those characteristics and well have women falling all over us.
A major character trait that females of all species are programmed to be attracted to is status. In the animal kingdom females are told by Mother Nature to mate with the dominant males of her species. It is no different for human beings. When female animals go into heat, they search out the strongest males to mate with in order to preserve the race and create strong offspring.
When a woman feels excited and wild over a guy shes feeling the same genetically programmed response that an animal feels when it goes into heat. She cant help these feelings. The female animal in nature goes for the seemingly unattainable, powerful, untamable male. No matter what she says or how much she tries to fight these instincts its simply factual that they exist inside her. All of this information is encoded in her genetic structure.
Women need to feel this wild, uncontrollable attraction. They dont logically choose it they feel it or not. You can buy her flowers for the next ten years and it wont matter unless you make her feel this attraction to you. Women dont care how things work; they care how things make them feel. In all of the romance novels and soap operas women have been devouring since they were kids, the leading males are always untamable, strong men who sweep women off their feet.
This is the quality that many potential males have. Women dont like the fact that the guy is actually a jerk its just that jerks have a tendency to have more of this primal, uncontrollable dominance that the weaker, nice guys dont have. They cant help it guys. They are simply responding to Mother Nature.
Estrogen is a drug that induces feeling. It makes women want and need to feel everything. Testosterone is a hormone of aggression/achievement and dominance. The sooner we realize and accept these facts, the easier time well have understanding the dating world. So what exactly are some of these traits that shes genetically programmed to desire? It is status, strength, power and money.
Are you a great guy with a lot to offer a woman but have no luck in getting women to talk to you let alone go out with you? Do you need a roadmap to understanding women and what attracts them?
Women have become really hard to impress these days. Men can feel intimidated. If you are single and trying to attract women, there are some things you can do that will help you out.
You need to feel confident in yourself. Nothing attracts woman more then self-confidence. Really. A woman wants a man who is sure of himself and acts that way. I do not mean arrogant, I mean self confident. If you feel that you are worthless, you will give off that impression with you actions and body language and that is NOT a feature that women find attractive. Think about it, is the girl sitting alone at the end of the bar who is not smiling, will not make eye contact and when approached has nothing to say a woman you want to be with? Of course not. However, that same woman sitting alone at the bar who is smiling, looking around and if approached, begins a conversation with you, is someone most en would be interested in getting to know. The same holds true for men. Body language speaks louder then words in most situation. You need to portray self confidence if you want to attract women. Self confidence will create an instant attraction.
There is also something to be said for the copycat. Do you know someone who always seems to get the girl? Watch and observe him on your next guys night out. What does he do differently then you? Does he have any traits that are easily copied? I do not mean pick-up lines. I mean, how does he stand? How does he interact with the women he approaches? If you can model yourself after someone who is successful, you are much more likely to be successful yourself.
Take your cues also from body language. If your friend holds himself a certain way and does certain things and it works for him, copying him will most likely bring you success as well. Body language can sometimes speak louder then words in attracting women.
You can also use humor and laughter to attract women. You need to do this the right way however or risk turning women off. Itis a delicate balance. If you can find this balance, you will be very successful. I do not know a single women who does not want a man who can make her laugh. For some women, it can be the first thing that attracts her to a man. A great sense of humor and the ability to convey that is very important.
