Guys usually stick to the “safe topics” when they meet a woman for the first time. Questions usually revolve around the standard questions about her job, hobbies she enjoys, where she is originally from or where she lives. Yes, these questions can stir up a few “responses” from her but they definitely are not the best way to initiate an interesting conversation that will begin to build attraction.
Consider your goal. Are you trying to get her phone number, or a job? I ask only because “safe topics” are great choices if you are in a job interview but not if you are trying to create chemistry and pick her up.
Simply put, safe topics tend to bore women to the point of tears. She may answer your questions, but she is more likely than not also hoping for a “polite” way to end the conversation. Women are attracted to men who are interesting, funny and confident, and safe topics do not display any of these characteristics.
Most guys who stick to safe topics when talking they first meet a woman usually do so because they feel sexually-related topics are taboo and should be avoided. Rightfully so, they are concerned about looking sleazy or offending her and choose to stick to the topics guaranteed not to insult her.
Yes, by sticking to the safe questions you will be successful in not offending her. But, you will also bore her and not help you seduce her.
To create chemistry and seduce women, you must introduce “chemistry creating” topics into the conversation. A great way to do this without offending her is by using sexual innuendos. Sexual innuendos are a necessity during every conversation you have with a woman you are trying to attract.
Let me tell you a secret: women think about sex just as much as men, and maybe more! With this in mind, you will find that it is much easier to create chemistry between both of you when you flirt a little and bring sex into the conversation.
Now, taking this too far can backfire which is another great reason why sexual innuendos are a subtle yet effective technique. A great way to start is by telling a humorous, sexually-related story about a friend or “someone you know.” Then, ask her if she has ever heard something like that or if she has any similar stories about her friends.
The point is to be sure it is a good combination of funny, interesting and sexually-related enough to stimulate her subconsciously to begin creating a sexual chemistry. Sexual innuendos are effective because sex is introduced and discussed in a non-threatening manner. You can create the necessary sexual tension in a more attractive way. Remember, the last thing you want is to look like a pervert just looking to get laid!
So, the next time you are trying to talk to an attractive woman, go ahead and try this technique. Tell some funny, sexually-related stories and slip in a few sexual innuendos. You will be pleasantly surprised, trust me!
If you have a fear of rejection when it comes to meeting women, you are not alone. Many guys have admitted to this same problem with women and find themselves as frustrated as you may be. And, I understand your frustration since this fear of being rejected by women is the very thing keeping you from attracting them.
There is good news, though. I learned a technique from a friend that can help you overcome this fear. It is time to say goodbye to your fear of rejection once and hello to meeting some great women. Unfortunately, there is not magic pill to eliminate this fear but there is what my friend calls “Going Kamikaze.”
Let me explain how this technique works and why it works for him…
My friend has succeeded with women because he goes into it not worrying about rejection. Now, he is aware of the chance or rejection but he simply disregards it and has learned to let go of the corresponding negative thoughts. He just focuses on enjoying the conversation with a nice woman and uses it as an opportunity to get to know her a little better.
Why it works is that he doesn’t subconsciously put pressure on himself in relation to the outcome of the conversation. Yes, he hopes to get her phone number or secure a date but he chooses to focus on the present moment and just enjoy the conversation.
If anything, you can learn from my friend and his “technique” that men who forget about rejection and let go of their fear of it tend to be the most successful when it comes to meeting and attracting women. Dwelling on the outcome of the conversation allows your fear of rejection to win. The anxiety increases while your “game” decreases. She will see right through you if you go into the conversation worrying about being rejected, and the only thing she will see is your lack of confidence.
Recently I found a great trick to eliminating a fear or rejection. All you have to do is focus on the present moment and enjoy your conversation with her. Ignore any negative thoughts or concerns about the outcome.
Now, one thing you cannot do is let your fear of rejection intimidate you. Do not hesitate to go up to a woman and start a conversation. Immediately approach a woman that sparks your interest. Logically, you will never be rejected if you never approach a woman but this safe alternative will also prevent you from ever succeeding when it comes to seducing women.
Have confidence in yourself. Go ahead and approach her. The probability of success is much greater than if you stand in the corner waiting on them to come to you. Eventually, approaching women will become more natural and you will probably even forget that you ever struggled with fear of rejection.
The best part of it is that once you let go of this fear and start approaching women automatically, your seduction skills and “game” will naturally improve. You can become great at meeting, attracting and seducing women by applying this one technique. Let go of your fear of rejection and go kamikaze!
Everyone has their own unique opinion about the best ways to seduce women. If you ask a man, he will have a few tricks up his sleeve, but many will not be that effective. If you ask a woman, they may be able to offer you a unique set of advice, but is this advice universal for all women? If you are looking for 5 ways to seduce a woman, you have come to the right place. Every woman is different, though, and you cannot expect that these will work on all of them. Still, arm your flirting and seduction arsenal with these tips and tricks, and expand your tool box as you learn and practice.
1. Talk dirty to her – It has been said that getting a woman thinking about sex is enough to get her thinking about having sex with you. This may not be spot on, but it is still possible to use cues to urge her into bed. You do not necessarily have to be talking explicitly about sex in order to get her in the mood, but if the time is right and your conversation begins to take on some sexual undertones, you should have a very real picture of whether or not she wants to sleep with you fairly easily.
2. Ask gentle questions about her sexual history. Don’t ask her “How many times have you had sex?” But you may feel comfortable enough to ask her if she’s ever done it in daring places, or on a dare, or with someone who’s name she didn’t know. This only really works on women who are open, and if you find your partner withdrawing at the sight of your questions, you need to stop. If she seems responsive, on the other hand, keep probing gently, and get her talking. She can actually lead herself into a flurry of sexual feelings just by recounting some of her wilder experiences, which is the perfect time for you to swoop in.
3. Entice her to bring up her fantasies. Let her tell you what she is into, without directly asking. Probe her fantasies a bit, and get her to tell you what she’d be interested in doing. You can ask what she would do if her favorite movie star walked in, and if she’s willing, she’ll tell you everything she’d do to get him to be with her. Don’t take advantage of her fantasies, but you should still feel open to using them ease her into bed.
4. Show her that you’re in control. We’re not talking about trying to be the alpha male, or trying to be cocky in any way. Still, show her that you are in control by offering to order her meal, opening doors for her; basically just leading the way. Don’t be an asshole, just be assertive and show her that you are concerned about providing her with a good experience. This may not cause her to rip her clothes off and jump you, but it will relax her a great deal more and may help her gain interest in a nightcap.
5. Fascinate her. If she’s bored, or seems disinterested, find some way to fascinate her. No cards, magic tricks, personality tests or surveys, please. Talk to her about your hobbies, ask her about hers. Getting her to open up about her life and personality is a great way not only to learn a lot about her, but also to rekindle her interest in the date.
Seducing women is often HOW you say something not what you say.
What I find interesting is women can be completely seduced by a guy without him saying a word. Just through the sheer presence of his aura, he can hypnotically attract her.
Now in this article, I’ll reveal five simple ways to can instantly seduce a woman without needing to say too much.
Let’s get started…
Trait #1- High Status Personality
Whatever you’re heard about women is probably false. While they profess a desire for ‘nice guys’ who treat them like gold, most secretly want a guy who can demonstrate high status and a bit of cockiness.
While you don’t have to act like an arrogant jerk, you must demonstrate that you’re a guy who has high status and is popular in a social context.
So when you’re around women, you need to show that you’re a leader not a follower. This means being the center of attention and carrying a conversation. By doing this, you’ll demonstrate qualities like initiative, confidence and authority. All of these are seductive qualities to women.
Trait #2- Sexually Desirable
A trait that’s equally important to showing a high status is to display a sexually desirable attitude.
Remember that women are emotional creatures. So they’re typically attracted to the men who can show that they’re sexually desired by other women.
The best way to do this is to make reference to girls you’ve dated. Additionally in a public setting, you should be seen talking to lots of different women. The more a woman sees you desired by ‘the competition’, the more she’ll find you interesting.
Trait #3- Confidence
I know. You’re probably sick and tired of girls saying they want a confident guy. But there’s a simple reason for why they say this…
It’s because they want a confident guy.
In order to be seductive to a woman, you must show that you’re comfortable in all situations. This is true even if she tests you or tries to be manipulative. No matter what happens, you should maintain a confident attitude.
The simple truth is women consider a lack of confidence to be a ‘deal breaker’. There are not many women around who want a guy who shows an unconfident personality.
So if you’re lacking in confidence, then you must find the root reason for it. Then work hard to improve this area of your life.
Trait #4- A Future
Another myth is women only want guys with a fancy job or lots of money. While these qualities are important, you can still be seductive even if you’re lacking in this area.
Now if don’t have lots of money or a great job, you have to still demonstrate that you have the coreTrait of ambition. A woman is willing to forgive a lack of present means if you can show that you have dreams that you’re working towards.
To show this seductive quality, you have to demonstrate that you’re a guy who is working towards something. In fact, a great technique is clearly describe your goals and what they mean to you.
Trait #5- Fun
As I said before, women are emotional creatures. While they might claim to want a nice guy, they’ll always be seduced any guy who is a provider of fun and exciting times.
The best way to show this quality is continuously tell stories about your life and the various adventures you have. And the best way to do this is a technique called the ‘Future Adventures’ routine.
It’s a fairly easy concept to use. Whenever you talk to a woman, you describe the fun and exciting things SHE could have with you. By emotionally talking about a possible adventure, you’ll draw her under your hypnotic spell.
Being able to seduce women often comes down to displaying a personality which women mysterious and interesting. When you demonstrate a superior attitude, women will be naturally drawn to you.
If you learn to implement the five personality traits I discussed in this article, women will naturally find you seductive.
Let me make a prediction…
There are moments in your life when you just want to have sex!
While you probably know the importance of a relationship or even might be looking for that special someone, there are times when you only want to get laid.
That’s why it’s important to know how to seduce women.
Without seduction, you have little chance of having sex.
Now many guys understand the importance of seduction, but they don’t know where to start. In fact they’ve probably found that it can be quite difficult to transition from a date to “getting it on” with a woman.
If you’re one of these guys, then I don’t have to tell you that it’s frustrating to like a woman but have no clue about how to seduce her.
But allow me to let you in on a little secret…
Women like sex as much as we do!
While they pretend to be seduced, they actually probably have as much desire for sex as any man. However they’re fairly selective about the manner of their sexual encounters.
For instance, women don’t like to make the first move. Instead they want to be pursued and desired by men. In essence this means you have to have the courage and forwardness to become a seducer of women.
Even if a woman is really into you, sex won’t happen unless you make the first move. That means if she’s into you there’ll be little resistance to your seduction techniques.
Now I know you might be one of those guys who is nervous about making the first move.
If that’s the case, then you can use the following technique for progressing from a date to having sex…
It’s called ‘making a transition’
A transition is any point in any moment when you can increase intimacy with a woman.
An example would be when you’re talking to a woman and start kissing her.
In his landmark ebook, Double Your Dating, David DeAngelo discusses the importance of why transitions can pull you from one step to the next. David has stated that there are key points when you’re with a woman which provides an opportunity to take things to the next level.
The techniques covered in ‘Double Your Dating’ emphasize the importance understanding your transitional point and how to achieve it.
To go from meeting a woman to having sex, you have to plan every single escalation point and what you’ll do to make it happen. By knowing how to navigate through this process, you’ll discover that seduce women is fairly easy!
My advice for planning out your transitions is to write down all the times where you encounter a roadblock or stopping point. In order to progress past this point, you have to identify the specific action you need to take.
So think of this moment and how you’ll handle it!
Some examples could include getting a woman’s number, setting up a date, initiating physical contact, kissing her and then finally seducing her.
As I said before, identify the next step you should take, write it down and figure out how to make that transition. Then put it to memory.
By planning out your transitions, you’ll be able to rapidly seduce her with confidence and ease.
Understanding how to seduce women is a skill which can be learned. If you understand these transition techniques, you’ll be able to seduce women quickly and effortlessly.
