Guys usually stick to the “safe topics” when they meet a woman for the first time. Questions usually revolve around the standard questions about her job, hobbies she enjoys, where she is originally from or where she lives. Yes, these questions can stir up a few “responses” from her but they definitely are not the best way to initiate an interesting conversation that will begin to build attraction.
Consider your goal. Are you trying to get her phone number, or a job? I ask only because “safe topics” are great choices if you are in a job interview but not if you are trying to create chemistry and pick her up.
Simply put, safe topics tend to bore women to the point of tears. She may answer your questions, but she is more likely than not also hoping for a “polite” way to end the conversation. Women are attracted to men who are interesting, funny and confident, and safe topics do not display any of these characteristics.
Most guys who stick to safe topics when talking they first meet a woman usually do so because they feel sexually-related topics are taboo and should be avoided. Rightfully so, they are concerned about looking sleazy or offending her and choose to stick to the topics guaranteed not to insult her.
Yes, by sticking to the safe questions you will be successful in not offending her. But, you will also bore her and not help you seduce her.
To create chemistry and seduce women, you must introduce “chemistry creating” topics into the conversation. A great way to do this without offending her is by using sexual innuendos. Sexual innuendos are a necessity during every conversation you have with a woman you are trying to attract.
Let me tell you a secret: women think about sex just as much as men, and maybe more! With this in mind, you will find that it is much easier to create chemistry between both of you when you flirt a little and bring sex into the conversation.
Now, taking this too far can backfire which is another great reason why sexual innuendos are a subtle yet effective technique. A great way to start is by telling a humorous, sexually-related story about a friend or “someone you know.” Then, ask her if she has ever heard something like that or if she has any similar stories about her friends.
The point is to be sure it is a good combination of funny, interesting and sexually-related enough to stimulate her subconsciously to begin creating a sexual chemistry. Sexual innuendos are effective because sex is introduced and discussed in a non-threatening manner. You can create the necessary sexual tension in a more attractive way. Remember, the last thing you want is to look like a pervert just looking to get laid!
So, the next time you are trying to talk to an attractive woman, go ahead and try this technique. Tell some funny, sexually-related stories and slip in a few sexual innuendos. You will be pleasantly surprised, trust me!
If you have a fear of rejection when it comes to meeting women, you are not alone. Many guys have admitted to this same problem with women and find themselves as frustrated as you may be. And, I understand your frustration since this fear of being rejected by women is the very thing keeping you from attracting them.
There is good news, though. I learned a technique from a friend that can help you overcome this fear. It is time to say goodbye to your fear of rejection once and hello to meeting some great women. Unfortunately, there is not magic pill to eliminate this fear but there is what my friend calls “Going Kamikaze.”
Let me explain how this technique works and why it works for him…
My friend has succeeded with women because he goes into it not worrying about rejection. Now, he is aware of the chance or rejection but he simply disregards it and has learned to let go of the corresponding negative thoughts. He just focuses on enjoying the conversation with a nice woman and uses it as an opportunity to get to know her a little better.
Why it works is that he doesn’t subconsciously put pressure on himself in relation to the outcome of the conversation. Yes, he hopes to get her phone number or secure a date but he chooses to focus on the present moment and just enjoy the conversation.
If anything, you can learn from my friend and his “technique” that men who forget about rejection and let go of their fear of it tend to be the most successful when it comes to meeting and attracting women. Dwelling on the outcome of the conversation allows your fear of rejection to win. The anxiety increases while your “game” decreases. She will see right through you if you go into the conversation worrying about being rejected, and the only thing she will see is your lack of confidence.
Recently I found a great trick to eliminating a fear or rejection. All you have to do is focus on the present moment and enjoy your conversation with her. Ignore any negative thoughts or concerns about the outcome.
Now, one thing you cannot do is let your fear of rejection intimidate you. Do not hesitate to go up to a woman and start a conversation. Immediately approach a woman that sparks your interest. Logically, you will never be rejected if you never approach a woman but this safe alternative will also prevent you from ever succeeding when it comes to seducing women.
Have confidence in yourself. Go ahead and approach her. The probability of success is much greater than if you stand in the corner waiting on them to come to you. Eventually, approaching women will become more natural and you will probably even forget that you ever struggled with fear of rejection.
The best part of it is that once you let go of this fear and start approaching women automatically, your seduction skills and “game” will naturally improve. You can become great at meeting, attracting and seducing women by applying this one technique. Let go of your fear of rejection and go kamikaze!
Everyone has their own unique opinion about the best ways to seduce women. If you ask a man, he will have a few tricks up his sleeve, but many will not be that effective. If you ask a woman, they may be able to offer you a unique set of advice, but is this advice universal for all women? If you are looking for 5 ways to seduce a woman, you have come to the right place. Every woman is different, though, and you cannot expect that these will work on all of them. Still, arm your flirting and seduction arsenal with these tips and tricks, and expand your tool box as you learn and practice.
1. Talk dirty to her – It has been said that getting a woman thinking about sex is enough to get her thinking about having sex with you. This may not be spot on, but it is still possible to use cues to urge her into bed. You do not necessarily have to be talking explicitly about sex in order to get her in the mood, but if the time is right and your conversation begins to take on some sexual undertones, you should have a very real picture of whether or not she wants to sleep with you fairly easily.
2. Ask gentle questions about her sexual history. Don’t ask her “How many times have you had sex?” But you may feel comfortable enough to ask her if she’s ever done it in daring places, or on a dare, or with someone who’s name she didn’t know. This only really works on women who are open, and if you find your partner withdrawing at the sight of your questions, you need to stop. If she seems responsive, on the other hand, keep probing gently, and get her talking. She can actually lead herself into a flurry of sexual feelings just by recounting some of her wilder experiences, which is the perfect time for you to swoop in.
3. Entice her to bring up her fantasies. Let her tell you what she is into, without directly asking. Probe her fantasies a bit, and get her to tell you what she’d be interested in doing. You can ask what she would do if her favorite movie star walked in, and if she’s willing, she’ll tell you everything she’d do to get him to be with her. Don’t take advantage of her fantasies, but you should still feel open to using them ease her into bed.
4. Show her that you’re in control. We’re not talking about trying to be the alpha male, or trying to be cocky in any way. Still, show her that you are in control by offering to order her meal, opening doors for her; basically just leading the way. Don’t be an asshole, just be assertive and show her that you are concerned about providing her with a good experience. This may not cause her to rip her clothes off and jump you, but it will relax her a great deal more and may help her gain interest in a nightcap.
5. Fascinate her. If she’s bored, or seems disinterested, find some way to fascinate her. No cards, magic tricks, personality tests or surveys, please. Talk to her about your hobbies, ask her about hers. Getting her to open up about her life and personality is a great way not only to learn a lot about her, but also to rekindle her interest in the date.
Desire is a powerful force. Restrain it too much, and it overwhelms you. Express it too much, and it overwhelms her. It feels like a no-win situation for a man desiring intimacy with a woman, but it’s not. You can have all your desires with a woman fulfilled if you know how to go about fulfilling her desires. And that’s what these 3 poignant seduction tips for men are all about.
Give Your Views on Sex a Little Makeover
Make sex mean to you what it means to her. Men perceive sex very much as an activity for granted, the most desirable activity there is, but an activity nonetheless. To men, sex is something extremely pleasurable to do. To women, on the other hand, it is nothing less than an expression of shared intimacy.
In order to seduce women, then, you need to shift your perspective on sex to value it similarly to how she does. Women find men who value the preciousness and meaningfulness of sex a turn-on.
Put Your Attention on Her
A seductive man is one who is not self-absorbed. A man whose obviously very -into himself- is a total turn-off to women. All seduction tips worth a damn involve stepping outside of yourself, your insecurities, and your own little inner world and putting your attention on the outer world, most particularly on the woman you’re trying to seduce. Women find it very attractive when the man that they’re with seems genuinely interested in her, and more, in providing her pleasure.
It’s not about what you like; it’s about what she likes. It’s not about what you want; it’s about what she wants. Focus on what she likes and what she wants, both on discovering it and providing it, and you will find that what you want and what you like will naturally follow in due course.
Remember as you make any moves towards seducing women, that if all your energies are trained on a genuine desire to bring her pleasure, then you will automatically receive pleasure as a result. Make her happy and you’ll be happy – it’s a simple and oft-forgotten law of nature that works every time.
Let Her Make the First Move
Yeah, in most other ways, you’re the one who’s got to make the first move. But in the art of seducing women, it works a little differently. Here your job is to set the stage for her to be the one to make the first move.
It’s not so much a power-play provoking women to want to make the first move (though, in this instance, it is definitely they who have the power)as it is a feeling of safety. A come-on from a guy can make a girl uncomfortable if she’s not ready for it. It can pressure her in ways that completely shut her down. And that can greatly set back all your efforts to win her over.
By holding back your sexual desires, maintaining a nonthreatening demeanor, and waiting for her to come on to you, you’re taking off that pressure, helping her to feel safe with you. And when she feels safe with you, she’ll want to be with you even more. Once she realizes that you’re not just out for one thing, that one thing will become increasingly overpowering inside her.
Granted, it generally takes much longer for a women to “get there” – to want to have sex with the man they’re with – than it takes a man. But you can shorten that duration by setting the best stage you can for her.
Then, when she’s ready, watch out! She’ll pounce on you like a hungry tigress.
So you are trying to become better at the art of seducing women right? You are on the right track if you are seeking for info. Knowledge is power and not so long ago, i was just a average frustrated chump without seduction knowledge. I was what you could call a nice guy. In this article i will show you some steps you must take in order to succeed with women and be the next casanova.
The first thing you must know is that women are emotional beings. Women operate in a 20% logic and 80% emotional. So you will never hit them with your logical side. This is one of the key secrets in the seduction game. Always appeal to their emotional side. Women barely make any logical decision. And thats the good thing for us. If you could just trigger the right emotional buttons inside a woman, no matter how ugly, stupid or fat you are, you are in the game. But of course, not all of us know how to trigger these buttons.
Of course, i am not saying that you dont to take care of your looks and appearance. Thats very important, if you dont have a unique style and personality your journey will be a lot thougher. But thats only a part of the game. No matter how handsome you are, if you act nervous and weird near pretty girls, you are history. Thats it. So stick it in your mind that the inner game is much more important than your looks. I bet you can tell several cases in your city where you have seen beatiful girls hanging with you can call ugly man.
But you see, these so called ugly man have something special. If you observe them closely, you will see that they act diferently that most men. They are confident. They lead the way. They are bold and fast. they have supreme confidence. They dont get nervous around any kind of girl, because they know that he can get any girl he wants, no matter his looks. And thats the key of seduction, if you appear to be confident, every women near you will notice and will want to know you better. Its instinctive. Its withing her genes. Women always seek shelther and protection, and the most confident man, in her eyes, is the man who can provide it to her.
So, from now on, change your frameset of mind. Never think yourself again as unworthy or inferior to woman. See yourself as the alpha male among men. See yourself as the most confident man in the planet. Of course, dont forget to take care of your appearance but the most important thing is your inner game. Now come on, the girls are waiting for you….
